Given the choice of one square of dark chocolate or an orgasm, choose the orgasm for health
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(HealthNewsDigest.com) – I work in the Medical Center so going to lectures given by a variety of Physicians is a common event. A couple of weeks ago I attended a lecture by a Cardiologist from the East Coast. He was speaking about healthy foods for the heart and mentioned chocolate. My ears perked up since I love chocolate. I was disappointed when he told the crowd that it only took one square of a dark chocolate bar to give you your health benefits (per day). One square? I can inhale that! Of course, somehow the conversation drifted to the idea of sex and your heart. Now…here is the greatest news! Orgasms are very good for your heart and as far as they (the medical establishment) know you can have as many as you want. I think women may want to reconsider their chocolate decision.
The idea of orgasms and their importance to women’s health is talked around but not really talked about. Oprah had someone on her show that specialized in sex and talked about the “sure thing” (a vibrator that is guaranteed to create an orgasm). Many women went out to buy it since it “guaranteed an orgasm”. Many women came to see me after failing with the vibrator only to be told that orgasms are never a sure thing. Women are more complicated sexually than men and the way we orgasm is much different. We need the right mood—the right fantasy, time to relax or to feel like we are sexy and desired, and then we need the right position. If we have a partner we love and who is patient and helpful with satisfying us, that is very close to a “sure thing”. Orgasms can and do help with healing many parts of the body. Look at this short list just for starters:
Pain relief: Oxytocin, a natural chemical in the body during climax gets some of the credit. A study by Beverly Whipple, a professor emeritus at Rutgers University and a famed sexologist and author, found that when women masturbated to orgasm “the pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increased significantly by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively.”
Cardio health: Numerous studies have reported that orgasm lowers blood pressure and may protect us from strokes due to the release of stress during climax.
Healing wounds: Research is being done regarding the ability of orgasm to rejuvenate the body enough to heal wounds quicker. Several studies have shown that the release of oxytocin can help the sores that many diabetics struggle with by regenerating certain cells (this data is still being studied so there are no clear markers of how many orgasms are necessary for healing to take place).
Fights aging: The old saying of lose it or lose it really applies here. Maybe it is the closeness, the cuddling, the communication, or the actual orgasm itself, but women who continue to orgasm report feeling younger and looking younger. For vaginal atrophy the best way to prevent it is to orgasm more.
How can a woman learn to orgasm more?
Relax. If you focus too much on achieving an orgasm then it will become that much harder to achieve one. Try to enjoy the experience and stay in the present. There is no goal.
If something feels good stay there. There is no right or wrong when it comes to your body, do what feels good for you.
If you have a loving partner, communicate with them. No guy has a master plan for your orgasm. Only you hold the owner’s manual.
Enjoy yourself. There is nothing sinful with exploring your body and celebrating the beautiful aspects of you. Stay away from critiquing your body; learn to appreciate its uniqueness instead of being critical. Real bodies are not airbrushed and they are all slightly different (thank God).
Fantasize. Fantasy is very important for women in regards to their orgasms. These are yours to use, you do not have to share them, nor do you have to feel guilty about using them if it helps you enjoy sex with your partner.
Tips for your significant other help you achieve orgasm:
Remember the importance of romance, cuddling, and a sensual atmosphere to turn a woman on.
Take your time.
Hold her the way she likes to be held. Many women enjoy their breast being caressed, others don’t. It is time to think of her, not you.
Women may know where they like to be touched, ask them instead of assuming.
Many women use vibrators and other ways to become stimulated. Ask to join her with this. When you become defensive in regards to her sexual practices she may feel shame and begin to hide these things from you.
Do tell her that she is the most beautiful and sexy woman you know.
Women come in frequently to talk about their sexual health and they should—it’s important. In fact, along with eating healthy, exercise, and annual checkups with your physician it can help preserve your health and eliminate diseases. What discourages many women from getting the help they need regarding their sexual health is embarrassment or fear of judgment when they talk to their doctor about it. If your doctor cannot handle your questions, find a doctor who can. Sometimes physicians are not comfortable with their own sexuality and if they aren’t comfortable with themselves they will not be able to be comfortable with you. Resist the idea that it isn’t important. It is very important and can make the difference between a healthy, sexy woman and a woman who feels like those times are gone forever or was never meant for her. All woman can orgasm and enjoy their sexuality. –Mary Jo Rapini-
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is featured on TLC’s new series, Big Medicine which completed season one and two. She is also a contributing expert for Cosmopolitan magazine, Women’s Health, First, and Seventeen magazine. Mary Jo has a syndicated column (Note to Self) in the Houston Chronicle, is a Love/Relationsips columnist to HealthNewsDigest.com and “Ask Mary Jo” in Houston Family Magazine. She is an intimacy and sex counselor, and specializes in empowering relationships. She has worked with the Pelvic restorative center at Methodist Hospital since 2007.
Mary Jo is a popular speaker across the nation, with multiple repeat requests to serve as key-note speaker for national conferences. Her dynamic style is particularly engaging for those dealing with intimacy issues and relationship challenges, or those simply hanging on to unasked questions about sex in relationships. She was recently a major participant in a symposium for young girls dealing with body image and helping girls become strong women. Rapini is the author of Is God Pink? Dying to Heal and co-author of Start Talking: A Girl’s Guide for You and Your Mom about Health, Sex or Whatever. She has appeared on television programs including Montel, Fox Morning News and various Houston television and radio programs. Keep up with the latest advice at Mary Jo Rapini
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