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(HealthNewsDigest.com) – Moms are the backbone of our families, and if they are unable to stop their own anger and unable to say no, they risk a heightened risk of hypertension, diabetes, and raising children with a lowered sense of self. How does this happen? Moms who don’t take time out for meditation, relaxation, and simple pampering routines become stressed with schedules, worries, and their relationships which manifest in their health. These same moms forget the importance of exercise and begin to gain weight. This weight leads to diseases such as diabetes and arthritis which cripples their ability to exercise and participate in life further. Soon they become too tired to join her children at the park, or uncomfortable attending events with her husbands where people may notice their weight, and depressed because they feel like they are no longer worthwhile.
We begin seeing the effects on children of mom’s inability to say “No” because she is so busy saying “yes” to everyone else’s demands that the only one hearing “No” is her child. Her children simply note that mom is no longer available to them. Children personalize everything and begin to think they are not worthy of mom’s attention. This leads to the child’s poor sense of self. Moms who are stressed with too much to do don’t talk well about themselves either. The child is constantly hearing mom berate herself for her thunder thighs, big belly, etc…The child personalizes these statements too.
Tips for learning to say NO to everyone else and yes to you
Practice meditation/prayer, or quiet time every day.
Take a 10 minute walk three times a day.
Before taking on a new task ask yourself…who will this benefit? If you or your families are not on the list, say “NO”. If you must add something to soften it, say “NO, I am taking time out for myself and my family.
Get pampered with something you like at least once a week.
Schedule a time when it is just you and your child…all phones and computers off.
Hug your partner at least once a day.
Have a chore chart and only do the chores you are listed to do. Appoint a manager of household chores (don’t volunteer).
To raise healthier families, moms need to care for themselves and not feel guilty. Much of the conflict in a family is caused by undue stress mom feels about not having time for herself and her inability to say “No”. Dads can help by pitching in with chores and focusing on the marriage more. Moms who are in good marriages have a tendency to stress less and handle daily demands with healthier coping skills. The best ways to teach your children to manage stress well is to teach them by modeling appropriate self care tips. Taking time out for you will help your child understand that giving back and nourishing our own body and spirit is as important as busying ourselves by taking care of others. –Mary Jo Rapini
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