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(HealthNewsDigest.com) – A “Land Shark” is a name given to those who take advantage of others, manipulate, and disregard who they hurt. They are people we befriend, date and work with. They hang out on social media sites, at coffee shops, at our work places and our schools. They are toxic, and being in a relationship with them ends up hurting. There are several qualities that stand out with a Land Shark. Below are listed a few.
1. Frequently tells you what’s wrong with you.
2. Talks down to you.
3. Intimidates you with insults or yelling, or slams doors or punches walls as a way of expressing anger.
4. Complains constantly about other people and their life.
5. Discourages you from going after your goals or aspirations.
6. Takes advantage of your kindness or your connections.
7. They live in constant crisis.
8. They are always negative.
9. They are unreliable and rarely follow through.
10. They will sell you out or lie to you if it helps them get ahead.
Land Sharks don’t make you feel good about yourself or your life. They will tell you they need you and no one understands them like you do, but that is because they are manipulative, not because they are sincere. You can’t win and/or be understood in an argument with a Land Shark, so the best thing you can do is avoid them or distance yourself if they are already in your life.
1. Make yourself less available, and no matter what their crisis do not enable them by listening or acting concerned.
2. Stand up for yourself, and don’t allow them to blame you or others.
3. Tell them when they are being manipulative exactly what you are feeling without backing down.
4. Make new friends.
5. Don’t let your guilt influence taking their calls and pleas for help. They are using you, and will cling to you because toxic people use up their resources quickly.
If you have never run into a Land Shark you are blessed, but they lurk everywhere. They are attracted to people who are non-judgmental and generous. Both these qualities are wonderful, so keep your attributes, but run away from the Land Shark. -Mary Jo Rapini
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